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  • Author : Cazzie
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23 Sep 2014 08:58 AM
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Yes Eagle, I'm on line tonight.  Thank you for thinking of me. Smiley Happy

This is a subject very close to me.  I've been asked several times why I stay, why I put up with, etc.  I've even been asked by my husband.

The answer, for me, is simple.  I love him and I'm not prepared to give up on us, on our marriage, on our life together.

I didn't give up and move out when he had to have open heart surgery and spent 5 weeks in Prince of Wales Hospital (cranky and irascible because of post-operative pain followed by the boredom of forced inactivity), or when he was irascible and depressed by severe joint pain which resulted in him having two total knee replacements.  Nor did I give up on him when he was diagnosed with bowel cancer.  I'm not about to leave him because he has been diagnosed with PTSD.

If you "put up with, stay with" etc for a physical injury/illness why would you leave someone for a mental illness?

I don't address anyone else's issues here, or offer advice.  I can't.  I can only speak for myself.

My husband isn't abusive in any of the accepted definitions of the word.  He would be horrified by the very thought that he could be regarded as abusive.  He spent the last six years of his working life defending against domestic violence/abuse.

Yes, he can be (and often is) difficult to deal with (put up with) at times but this isn't a 24/7 issue.  Name me any couple who don't have highs and lows in their relationship, any family that doesn't have highs and lows in their lives.

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